How to Use a Vibrator: Tips From Sex and Wellness Experts
Will you use the masturbator alone or during sex (in which case, Dr. Lehmiller suggests an open-ended sleeve that can be combined with oral stimulation)? “There are a lot of options out there, so having some clarity around what you’re looking for can help you narrow down the choices,” he adds. The vibe is touted as whisper-quiet so moaning should be the only sound you hear. The wind tip simulates oral sex and the water tip throbs like the ocean. Its small size makes it travel-friendly and it’s so discreet that no one will know what it is, even if the TSA inspects your bag.
“They are designed to go in your butt and stay in your butt,” Wright says. This creates a feeling of fullness while leaving your hands free for other activities. Meanwhile, anal beads are meant to move in and out of your butt, massaging all of the nerves you have down there, she adds. Some anal toys also vibrate , notes psychotherapist Joy Berkheimer, PhD, LMFT, an expert at SXWA, a sexual wellness award platform, which can feel even better. Smile Maker’s Ballerina is designed to wrap your entire vulva in a hug of rumbly vibrations. It’s curved to match the shape of your body, which means you can use the toy hands-free when you’re lying on your back.
This rabbit vibrator has an adjustable external arm that moves with you for clitoral stimulation while the curved shaft of the internal arm stimulates the G-spot. Both arms can be controlled independently so you can enjoy different speeds and vibration modes. There is also an app so you can hook up multiple toys and your partner can operate no matter how far away they are. Not all wand vibrators are created equal, according to Stephanie Hack, MD, founder of women’s health platform, Lady Parts Doctor, who has a list of criteria your sex toys should meet before you shell out your hard-earned cash.
The tapered oval shape fits nicely against the vulva, with vibrations focused at the tip of the toy for clitoral stimulation. The toy is also flat enough (about 1 inch thick) for easy positioning between bodies during intercourse. The Magic Wand Rechargeable has an automatic shutoff function at the 20-minute mark, which can be disruptive if you don’t expect it (one of our testers thought the toy had run out of battery life when this happened). The manufacturer recommends letting the toy cool off after 20 minutes to prolong the motor’s life, but you can continue to use it at this point by simply turning it back on again.
Own your journey, embrace your power viberator, and indulge in self-care like never before. The We-Vibe Rave 2 is app-controlled, which means you — and mostly importantly, your partner — controls the fun from a smart device. It has 10 built-in modes, but with the app you can custom the vibration patterns and control the device from anywhere. Perfect if one of you is away but you want to keep the bedroom fun going. Adding to that discreet factor is the Supersex’s ultra-quiet yet powerful vibration, and a compact frame that’s fully waterproof for fun shower play. There’s no one-size-fits-all beginner vibrator, because vibrators do all kinds of different things and all of our tastes are different.